What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
Divorce and remarriage are sensitive topics that affect many lives. The Bible provides clear guidance on this issue, balancing God’s original design for marriage with the reality of human sin and brokenness. Let’s explore what Scripture says about divorce and remarriage.
1. God’s Original Design for Marriage
Before discussing divorce, we must understand God’s purpose for marriage.
- Marriage is a covenant, not just a contract. (Malachi 2:14)
- God’s design is for lifelong unity. (Genesis 2:24) – “A man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
- Marriage reflects Christ’s relationship with the Church. (Ephesians 5:31-32)
God’s ideal plan for marriage is a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman. However, because of human sin, God allowed divorce under certain conditions.
2. What Jesus Taught About Divorce
Jesus was asked about divorce in Matthew 19:3-9. His response points back to God’s original design:
- Divorce was never part of God’s perfect plan. (Matthew 19:8)
- Divorce is permitted only for sexual immorality. (Matthew 19:9) – “Whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Jesus acknowledged that Moses allowed divorce due to “the hardness of heart” (Matthew 19:8), but it was not God’s intention from the beginning.
3. Biblical Grounds for Divorce
Though divorce is discouraged, the Bible does recognize certain situations where it is allowed:
A. Sexual Immorality (Adultery) – (Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9)
If one spouse is unfaithful, the innocent spouse is permitted to divorce. However, reconciliation is always encouraged if possible.
B. Abandonment by an Unbelieving Spouse – (1 Corinthians 7:15)
If an unbelieving spouse leaves a believer, the believer is “not bound” to the marriage. This suggests that remarriage may be permissible in such cases.
C. Abuse and Extreme Hardship (Implied Principle)
While the Bible does not explicitly state abuse as a reason for divorce, God’s justice and care for the oppressed (Psalm 82:4) suggest that staying in an abusive relationship is not required. Separation may be necessary for safety.
4. What About Remarriage?
The Bible’s teaching on remarriage depends on the reason for divorce.
- If a divorce was for unbiblical reasons, remarriage is considered adultery. (Luke 16:18)
- If a divorce was based on biblical grounds, remarriage appears to be permitted. (1 Corinthians 7:15)
- Widows and widowers are free to remarry. (Romans 7:2-3, 1 Corinthians 7:39)
Paul encourages people to remain single if they can (1 Corinthians 7:8-9), but also acknowledges that it is better to remarry than to burn with passion.
5. The Grace of God for the Divorced and Remarried
Divorce is not an unforgivable sin. God offers grace, healing, and restoration to those who have experienced divorce or remarriage.
- God forgives all sin for those who repent. (1 John 1:9)
- Christ brings restoration and new beginnings. (2 Corinthians 5:17)
If you have gone through a divorce, seek God’s wisdom, and if remarriage is a consideration, approach it prayerfully, ensuring that it aligns with biblical principles.
Conclusion: God’s Call to Faithfulness
While the Bible discourages divorce, it acknowledges human weakness and provides grace. God’s ultimate desire is faithfulness in marriage, but He also extends mercy to the brokenhearted. Whether single, married, divorced, or remarried, God’s love and redemption are available to all who seek Him.
Are you struggling with questions about marriage, divorce, or remarriage? Seek God’s Word, wise counsel, and prayer for guidance in your situation.