We all have special people in our lives. The question is, “Do they feel special?” Sadly too often the answer is, “No!”
Here are 7 things you can do to make the one you love feel special on Valentine’s Day or any day.
Hand Written Note: Write specific things you love and appreciate about him/her.
Act of Kindness: Do something that you know will say, “I’m doing this because I love you.” Maybe it’s something they don’t like doing or a special help around the house. Vacuuming or mopping the floors is the ticket at our house.
Thoughtful Gift: Emphasis on thoughtful. Ask yourself what is something special that would say, “I know you, and you will like this.” For my wife it would be Blackcurrant Tea and a jar of cashews. Not expensive but has thoughtful written all over it.
Special Dinner: This could be taking your spouse out to a nice restaurant but could also be a candlelight dinner at home. If you don’t usually cook the meals, take over the kitchen, and make dinner. Set the atmosphere with flowers, candles, good dishes or a table cloth.
Time: In the high paced world we live in, time has become a precious gift. Slow down. Linger over the meal and dessert. Sit and relax, talk, reflect on special moments in your relationship. Last week my wife was having a bad day. After dinner she started debriefing from her day. She talked for over an hour. I just sat and listened. Finally she said to me, “Are you okay, you have not gotten up to do anything this whole time.” I have this bad habit of thinking I can do little things while she’s talking to me. Later in the week she commented how much it meant that I just sat and listened.
Words: Think about what you would like to say if you knew it was the last time you were going to see them. If words come hard, great, think how special they will be, and write them out! If you need some help formulating your thoughts, finish the following sentences:
– Thank you for being…
– I appreciate you/your…
– I look forward to growing old with you because…
Intimacy: Make your spouse feel special. Do what you know will satisfy. (If you don’t know, then ask, “How can I express how much I love you tonight?”.) Linger in the embrace of each others arms. Go for the best lover of the year award!
Thought: Don’t feel like you have to do everything on this list. Pick a couple ideas and make the one you love feel special, because they are!
Apostle Paul gives us a standard to follow:
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
– Letter to the Ephesians 4:32
“Every good action and every perfect gift is from God.”
James 1:17 (NCV)
Ever feel like you have nothing? Just look at the gifts [God] has given you:
He has sent His angels to care for you, His Holy Spirit to dwell in you, His
church to encourage you, and His word to guide you….
Anytime you speak, He listens; make a request and He responds.
He will never let you be tempted too much or stumble too far.
Let a tear appear on your cheek, and He is there to wipe it.
Let a love sonnet appear on your lips, and He is there to hear it.
As much as you want to see Him, He wants to see you more….
You have been chosen by Christ…. He has claimed you as His beloved.