The 10 Deep Ways to Spiritually Grow Your Marriage
(How to Build a Christ-Centered, Eternally Focused Relationship)
1. Build Your Marriage on Christ – The Solid Rock
“For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.” – 1 Corinthians 3:11
Explanation:
The foundation determines the future. When your marriage is built on mutual feelings, it shakes. But when built on Christ—the unchanging Rock—it becomes unbreakable. Invite Christ into your marriage, not as a guest, but as the King and center.
How to apply:
- Pray together daily
- Study the Word together
- Make Jesus the reason and ruler of your home
2. Prioritize Prayer Together Every Day
“Where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” – Matthew 18:20
Explanation:
Prayer is not just a spiritual activity—it’s a divine intimacy. Couples who pray together stay together because they meet God in unity. Prayer breaks pride, heals wounds, and brings divine peace.
Tips:
- Set a fixed time for prayer—morning or evening
- Thank God for each other
- Pray for each other’s weaknesses and dreams
3. Read and Reflect on God’s Word Together
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” – Psalm 119:105
Explanation:
The Bible is God’s voice guiding you both through life’s storms, seasons, and decisions. Reading together connects your spirits and roots your decisions in truth, not emotion.
Ideas:
- Pick a Bible reading plan as a couple
- Discuss what you learn
- Memorize promises together
4. Practice Humility and Forgiveness Quickly
“Be kind and compassionate… forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
Explanation:
A spiritually strong marriage is not one without conflict, but one where forgiveness flows freely. Pride poisons, but humility heals. Saying “I’m sorry” quickly and sincerely creates a grace-filled relationship.
Grow in this:
- Never sleep in anger
- Admit when you’re wrong—even when it’s hard
- Forgive even when it’s not asked for
5. Serve One Another as Christ Served
“The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve…” – Matthew 20:28
Explanation:
Spiritual maturity grows when selfishness dies. Marriage flourishes when each spouse stops asking “What do I get?” and starts asking “What can I give?”
Ways to serve:
- Surprise your spouse with small acts of kindness
- Encourage instead of criticize
- Share responsibilities joyfully
6. Develop Spiritual Intimacy Before Physical Intimacy
“Two are better than one… A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9–12
Explanation:
Spiritual intimacy—praying, worshipping, seeking God together—is far deeper and more lasting than physical attraction. When your spirits are united in Christ, your love grows pure and powerful.
Practical idea:
- Start your day with a spiritual conversation
- Share testimonies or past stories of God’s faithfulness
- Ask, “What is God teaching you lately?”
7. Guard Your Marriage with Spiritual Boundaries
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23
Explanation:
Just as a garden needs fences to flourish, marriages need boundaries to grow spiritually. Protect your relationship from negative influences, unhealthy conversations, and emotional distractions.
Healthy boundaries include:
- No secrets
- Accountability partners
- Honoring each other in public and private
8. Worship Together Regularly
“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” – Joshua 24:15
Explanation:
Worship is not only singing—it’s surrendering. When you attend church together, serve together, and worship side by side, you’re declaring: “God is Lord over our home.”
Tips:
- Go to church as a non-negotiable
- Attend marriage seminars or couple’s fellowships
- Play worship music at home often
9. Pursue a Shared Kingdom Purpose
“Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness…” – Matthew 6:33
Explanation:
Marriage is not just for comfort but for calling. Ask: What mission has God given us together? Is it hospitality? Teaching? Evangelism? Raising godly children? Supporting others?
Ideas:
- Volunteer as a couple
- Sponsor a child or ministry
- Lead Bible studies for other couples
10. Long for Heaven Together
“Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” – Colossians 3:2
Explanation:
Marriage is not the final destination—it’s the preparation for it. A spiritually mature couple knows their real home is heaven. They prepare each other for eternity with Jesus.
How to apply:
- Talk about eternal things
- Encourage each other to finish well
- Support each other’s spiritual gifts
Discover 10 deeply spiritual ways to grow your marriage in Christ. Learn how prayer, forgiveness, service, and worship can transform your relationship into a Christ-centered union that reflects God’s eternal purpose.
Reflection Questions:
- Which of these areas do you need to grow in the most?
- How are you building your spiritual foundation as a couple?
- What is one spiritual habit you can start this week together?
Call to Action:
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May the grace and peace of God rest on your home forever.
Helpful Links:
- Grow your marriage in the Word of God – GraceToGospel.com
- https://crosswalk.com – Christian marriage resources